traditional culture (before liberation in China)
or
religion (judaism, christianity, muslin),
either husband or wife 掌指挥棒 is not a big deal,
usually they will reach a harmony point
where husband takes care of this areas and wife another areas after a short period of practice.

However,
if it is an open system as Hollywood taught,
such as, 'I love a person who is lovable and lovely
and worthy of love',
this family is always vulnerable,
it all depends on the stability of
circumstances, income, appearance,
kids, degree, position, parents-in-law, etc.
everything can be an extra-force to destroy
this family.